No Kids at the Wedding Please

– How to Say it Tastefully

As much as you love your nieces, nephews and even your own children, some of you know that an otherwise perfect day can be tarnished by a misbehaving little one. You don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings, so what should you do? If you don’t mind kids at your wedding, then this article is not for you. If your are in the other group, read on…If you are reading this, you are probably afraid of being labeled as selfish or a child hater, but this is your day. You planned for it, paid for it and deserve to have it the way you want. Even if you are being selfish, having paid a few thousand dollars or more says you have the right to be!Well enough of the pep talk. You must be open and honest from the very beginning. Waiting to long in fear of causing trouble will only make matters worse and leave you feeling even more “guilty” when some people were expecting to bring their little ones from the start. Most people will understand and some have asked it for their own weddings, but there are still a few that need to be told.

Here are some of the ways to get the message across early:

1. Send it with the invitation. That’s right! You could put it on a separate card and make a reference to it being an adults only event. You may not want to say “no kids please” because the words “adults only” is less likely to be seen negatively.

2. Call each and every person who you believe is coming and be honest and upfront. Don’t take too long with the small talk and try to end on a positive note. It would also be a good idea to have babysitters in a separate room at the wedding in case someone forgets or just had to bring little Mark.

3. On that same note. If you just don’t want to feel like you are a kid-hater, just make a point to have babysitters at your wedding. This way no one will feel left out or “betrayed”. You still have to contend with those parents AND children that have separation anxiety. You will have to make sure to tell them that if they plan to bring children with them, they must be placed with the babysitter you or they have provided, in a separate room, no exceptions. Having a room with toys and bright colors could peak a child’s interest, but there is no guarantee.

4. Use psychology. The statement, “This is a day to enjoy yourself too. Leave the kids at home (with our babysitter)”, will definitely bring some of those not-so-understanding parents to your corner. The parents with the most misbehaved kids will be the first to identify with this statement.

If all else fails, just remember the important thing is that you are marrying the one you love and that nothing can change that!

About the author:
Victoria Williams is the editor of the online magazine www.nuptialparadise.com

Cutting Cake Costs

Three Ways to Cut Cake Costs

The wedding cake you’ve fantasized about can also be the one your wallet says “yes” to. Here are some great ideas for a more affordable – but still gorgeous – wedding cake.

  • Get a smaller cake. Show off the beautiful wedding cake for everyone to see, then have a sheet cake of the same flavor cut in the back.
  • Make mini cakes. Instead of one large cake, split up the cost and ask your baker to make every guest a cupcake of your favorite flavor instead. Top each with something pretty, and build a wedding cake tower of your fabulous cupcakes.
  • Offer a dessert bar. Another great way to offer dessert while having a smaller cake: set up a dessert bar with mini pastries and coffee to offset a piece of wedding cake.

Budget Guidelines

Once you have decided on a wedding budget, do your best to stick to it. Record your expenses on the charts we have developed, to help keep track of costs as you plan the details of your wedding day.

Your budget should be flexible enough so that an unexpected expense will not ruin it.

The following are estimates to help guide you in setting a budget for your wedding. You can increase or decrease any item depending on what aspects of the wedding you would like to emphasize.

Reception
Bridal Attire
Flowers
Photographs
Stationary
50%
13%
10%
10%
5%
Music
Rentals
Transportation
Attendant Gifts
Other
4%
3%
2%
2%
1%

The 8 Things Guests Secretly Wish You’d Do At Your Wedding

Psst! Want us to let you in on a little secret? Wedding guests tend to care more about good booze at your big day than fancy favors (that they’re likely to forget to take home anyway!).

While your wedding is, of course, about what you and your fiancé want, keeping the guest experience in mind will go a long way in creating your happily ever after. With that in mind, here are eight things friends and family secretly wish you’d do at your wedding.

The Wish List

  • 1. Demystify the Dress Code
  • 2. Do Away with Assigned Seats
  • 3. Stop Playing Matchmaker
  • 4. Invest in the Booze Instead of All the Other “Extras”
  • 5. Don’t Interrupt the Party for the Cake Cutting
  • 6. Serve Scrumptious Late Night Snacks
  • 7. Help Them Get There Easy
  • 8. Make the Dinner Reception Feel More Like a Party
Read the full list and expanded information at the source, www.brides.com

Wedding Cake Boxes

Many styles to choose from
Approximately 3″L x 2″H

With this set of decorative wedding cake favor boxes, now your guests can take home a slice of your cake figuratively speaking. Imported directly from Italy, these off-white embossed boxes are shaped to perfectly form a wedding cake. Each of the boxes are wrapped with a satin ribbon and accented with an ivory flower. Inside waits a surprise treat for your wedding guests in the form of candy.

Display the wedding cake favor boxes in a circular pattern to form a two tiered cake. This arrangement makes a beautiful presentation as a centerpiece for each table. Approximate number of boxes needed to form a cake: 40-50 cake boxes. These favors are great for more than just a wedding; you can use them for any type of party.

Include a personalized card with your names and wedding or party date to add a special touch. Our lovely satin ribbon comes in your choice of 14 beautiful colors. The candy filling included in our favor boxes is available in your choice of 12 different types of candy.

Why Less Is More When It Comes To Wedding Veils

Traditionally, veils were made from white or ivory tulle with plain, pencil or satin cord edging. This allowed the focus to be on the bride’s face, her headpiece and wedding gown. Now custom designer veils have an abundance of embroidered appliqués, rhinestones, bugle beads, sequins, crystals and pearls. Besides the traditional edging, now the bride can select colored ribbon edging to match her colored wedding gown. Many online companies even offer to dye the tulle to match the wedding gown. Other edging options are Venetian lace, pearls, rhinestones, bugle beads and gold and silver filament.

Accents can also be added to the wedding veil and most companies are happy to do it. The bride can order a veil with scattered rhinestones and pay for scattered pearls as well. She can have those pearls in color to match her gown. She can choose a garnet ribbon edged veil to match the upside down garnet “V” at the back of her train. Unfortunately, this will make a dark bar across her back and distract from the loveliness of her gown.

A heavily decorated veil will also take away from the bride’s headpiece and jewelry. A dainty tiara will look overpowered with a heavily embroidered veil and the bride’s earrings will be lost under the edging. In some cases, the veil can distract from the embellishment of the wedding gown. A charming, corset back on a wedding gown would best be served by a plain veil or no veil at all.

Many brides are now choosing to go without a veil. Bridal fashions have been clean and simple in recent years. Gowns are strapless, or have spagetti straps with plain matte satin fabric. Trains are shorter and less elaborate (although lace is starting to make a comeback). The bride is now using a detachable veil and removing it completely at the reception, wearing only a beautiful tiara. A simple veil, with scattered pearls or rhinestones to match the wedding gown, will make the bride look perfect.

About the author:

Kathleen Terrana is the owner of www.beautiful-bridal.com Beautiful Bridal specializing in discount tiaras, veils, bridal and bridesmaid jewelry. Visit our site for additional wedding tips, advice and information.

Blusher Veils

The blusher is the portion of the veil that is placed over the head to cover the bride’s face. This is the part of the veil that the groom lifts and throws back in order to kiss the bride. Today, the most common veil is a double tier, where the shorter tier is the blusher. Even if the bride chooses not to place the blusher over her face, she can still wear a double tier veil. This would be made of two pieces of the veil fabric cut in different lengths, such as elbow and fingertip length, or fingertip and cathedral length. A veil may also be single tier or triple tier depending on the look the bride wants.
Detachable Veils
While veils are lovely during the wedding ceremony, the may be difficult to manage during a reception. Food, candles, dancing, and dozens of pairs of feet may be more obstacles than a bride can navigate. Consider a detachable veil that can be removed after the formal wedding photos have been completed. Most veils can be attached to the headpiece with a strip of Velcro or snaps, and removed quickly when the bride is ready.

Veil Shapes

The shape of a veil influences how much fullness and gathering is required in joining it to the headpiece or base, and how full the bottom edge appears. Common veil shapes include:
The full oval, which is cut as a rectangle, with slightly rounded corners, and then gathered at the top edge. The sides fall smoothly, and this shape works when the veil is attached to the headpiece at the front rather than the back.
The half oval is cut like a rectangle, with two bottom corners are slightly rounded, and gathered at the top edge. This shape works well when the veil is attached to the back of the headpiece.
The rectangle is cut with 90 degree corners, and then gathered at the top edge. This shape works will when the veil drops directly from the back of the headpiece.
The teardrop is narrower at the top than at the lower edge, with top and bottom edges shaped like a semi-circle. This shape works well when used as a cathedral veil, but is not attractive when used with a pouf.
The circle is cut in a circular shape and gathered in the middle. This veil gives no appearance of an edge and is best for shoulder length veils. The standard size for a circle is 72-inches in diameter, which is the width of most bridal illusion and tulle. One side of a circle can be used as a blusher.
The pouf is simply gathered material at the top of the veil, used to add height and character to a headpiece. It is usually used with tiaras, crowns, pillbox hats, or other elaborate headpieces. A standard pouf may be up to eight inches high. Another option is a shorter, wider pouf that appears more like a halo. A bride might also choose to add several layers to her veil for a full effect around the face and head.

Veil Fabrics

Veils today are usually made from nylon netting called illusion or tulle. The fabric comes in width of 72 inches or 108 inches, and in a variety of colors and finishes. Some bridal illusion appears to have a shimmer, while others are completely matte. Other fabric choices include chiffon, silk illusion, or lace.

Veil Colors

There are three traditional veil colors. White is pure white in color, to match white satin, chiffon, cotton, or lace gowns. Winter white, diamond white, or silk white refer to a color that is between white and ivory, to match white silk, antique or vintage gowns that are not true white. Ivory is off-white with a yellowish tint, to match ivory satin, chiffon, cotton, or lace gowns. Most bridal illusion and tulle comes in a variety of colors, so even if the dress is fuschia, there should be veiling available to match.

Veil Edges

Veil edges can be plain, rolled, curly or scalloped. It can be left plain or covered with ribbon, pearls, crystals, lace, satin cord, or embroidery. You can also decorate the nylon veil with sequins, pearls, lace appliques, or crystals. The heavier the edging, the more the veil will be weighted down. For a fluffy look, it’s best to use not edging at all.

ABC’s of Veils & Headpieces

You have a perfect look in mind and try desperately to describe it to your friends, family and the sales clerk.
Do you want a cathedral length veil, chapel length or a mantilla? A wreath or tiara?
If you can precisely name the item you have in mind, it would make shopping for your perfect headgear, a perfect breeze!
Below you’ll find the different types of popular headpieces and veils as well as a brief description of each.

Ballet or Waltz Length
Single or multiple layers of veiling just grazing the ankles
Blusher 
Single veil worn over face before the ceremony, lifted up and back over headpiece by groom during the ceremony. Attached to longer veil in back
Cathedral Length
Three and a half yards of veiling, falling from headpiece to the floor.
Chapel Length
Two and a third yards of veiling, flowing from the headpiece to the floor.
Fingertip
One or several layers of veiling in a length just touching the fingertips.
Elbow
Two layers of veiling consisting of one fingertip length and one blusher length.
Flyaway
Multiple layers of veiling that brush shoulders. Worn with an informal, ankle-length dress or a gown that has a decorative back you don’t want to cover.
Pouf
Small gathering of veiling attached to the back or side of the headpiece.

Headpieces

Chanel Bow
Large, flat satin bow, fashioned to a barrette and worn flat against nape of neck.
Coronet
Any combination of thick materials braided into a flat ring to wear on the head the way a wreath is.
Derby
Small, stiff-brimmed hat with a domed crown. Usually made of satin and lace and trimmed with crystals or pearls. worn on top of head, straight-on or tilted.
Half-Hat
Small hat covering half of the head. Worn in any position.
Headband
A combination of pearls, silk flowers and ribbons. Worn low on the forehead, positioned on top of head or extending under the back hair.
Juliet Cap
Small cap that hugs the back of the head.

Mantilla
Lace veiling or lace-trimmed veiling secured in elegant Spanish style on crown of head by a comb or cap. Lies flat against hair and cascades down over shoulders.
Picture Hat
Large brimmed hat covered in satin and decorated with satin or ribbon flowers. Some pearls or other beads are added.
Pillbox Hat
Brimless, round, structured hat, worn on top of head or tilted to one side.
Profile
Cluster of silk flowers, ribbons, pearls, crystals or sprays attached to a comb and worn on one side of head.

Snood
Small, round, cover of lace and pearls worn over a chignon.
Tiara
Small crown encrusted with gems, crystals or rhinestones worn centered on top of head.
Wreath Head-Piece
Delicate circlet of flowers or pearls worn on top of hair, extending onto the forehead.

Choosing The Right Headpiece

There are many headpiece choices for today’s bride. She can choose from a range of traditional styles based on the type of gown she will wear, the formality of the occasion, and the time of day the wedding will be held. In general, a bride should choose a headpiece that is in proportion to her dress and has similar trimming details. If the dress is short, ivory, and trimmed in pearls, chances are she shouldn’t shop for a long white veil trimmed in lace.

Headpiece Shapes

Headpieces can be found in a variety of shapes.
Tiaras and Crowns: Typically seen at formal weddings, these can be decorated with rhinestones, pearls or jewels. Sizes and styles ranges from tiny pieces designed to encircle a small bun, to large ornate crowns that would make the Queen of England jealous. Be sure to choose a style that is proportional to your gown.
Wreaths and Flower Circles: Perfectly suited for outdoor or casual weddings, wreaths and circlets made from flowers and greenery can be worn with veils or without.
Headbands and V-Front Bands: Headbands are especially suited to brides who wear bangs. Bands can be worn with or without veils, and can be covered in simple fabric matching the wedding gown, or decorated with flowers, lace, pearls or rhinestones.
Skullcaps: Sometimes called Juliet caps, these are usually small frames that fit very close to the head, supporting the veil.
Barrettes and Combs: Modern brides sometimes forego formal headpieces and veils altogether and wear simple combs or barrettes. These can be decorated with flowers, pearls or rhinestones. The emphasis is on the hairstyle rather than the decoration when these are worn.
Hats: From small pillbox shapes to large round picture hats, from sheer lace and tulle to heavy brushed felt, the variety in hats is endless. Worn with veils or without, depending on the style of the hat.

Veil Length

Veil length is usually determined by the formality of the wedding and the style and detailing of the gown. There are five traditional veil lengths:
Shoulder length ends either just below the bottom of the ears, or just below the shoulders. This length is traditionally worn alone at a morning, afternoon, informal or semi-formal wedding. It works well for brides who wish to show intricate beadwork on the back of their gown. When used as a blusher and combined with other lengths, it is appropriate for formal and semi-formal weddings.
Elbow length ends just above or at the bride’s elbow. It is used for gowns with no train or for gowns with detailing at the waist. This length works well with a blusher.
Fingertip length is currently the most popular length for a veil. This length is perfect for semi-formal or formal weddings in the afternoon or evening but can be used for any type of wedding. The veil ends just below the middle knuckle of the middle finger. A fingertip veil is particularly beautiful when combined with an elbow length blusher.
Chapel length falls to the floor, and is appropriate for semi-formal or formal weddings. It is usually combined with other shorter layers, and worn with gowns that have at least a slight train.
Cathedral length flows past the hem of the gown and extends onto the train at least one foot. Cathedral length veils are usually three yards in length and can go to fifteen yards. They are typically used for formal evening weddings, often combined with a fingertip blusher.
One thing to remember is that veil lengths can be customized to the height of the bride. Although a 36-inch fingertip veil may be standard, the length can be adjusted so that it falls correctly to the middle knuckle of the bride’s middle finger.